Are you feeling ready to commit to a partner and work on building a strong and happy relationship? Well, let me let you in on the secrets of a healthy relationship.
Oof GIRL! I will be the first to tell you dating in your 20s does not come easy! I don’t know about you, but the amount of f*ck boys I’ve encountered over the years are far from few. I will admit though, I have had my fair share of not so nice moments as well. But out of those experiences I have learned a ton of lessons about what makes a lasting relationship. So at least theres a silver lining!
Relationships at this age or let’s be real, any age, can honestly get pretty confusing. But fear not, because in this guide, ill spill the tea on the best-kept secrets to cultivating a happy relationship that lasts.
This Post Is All About Learning The Secrets Of A Happy Relationship
The Top 5 Secrets To Building A Healthy & Happy Relationship In Your 20's
Be Intentional From The Begining.
This one might seem obvious, but from personal experience Iv’e found that more times than not I have stepped into relationships without fully knowing my own intentions.
We live in a world of swipes and fleeting texts and often bounce from one person to the next fairly quickly.
All of this is completely fine. But when you start to have the desire to settle down and transition into dating for a long term commitments it’s important to figure out what exactly you are looking to get from a relationship.
Think about what kind of partner you would like. But also think about the value you are providing to the relationship. Also don’ be afraid to talk to your potential partner early on to see if you guys are on the same page about the relationship.
Do hard things together
Facing adversity side by side literally just makes you into an unbeatable little team of two! Doing hard things together not only allows you to witness each other’s strengths and weaknesses in a new light but also provides a lot of room for vulnerability.
When you’re both outside your comfort zones, you naturally let your guard down, revealing a more authentic version of yourselves. This makes you guys develop a strong bond over time which becomes more and more unbreakable the more you are pushed out of your comfort zone.
Growing as a person alongside your partner will help you both create a strong bond which leads to a happy relationship.
Learn how to deal with conflict. And how to fight fair
If you have ever been in an unhealthy relationship you know some choice words can be thrown around that are not very nice. This kind of behavior leads to resentment and a lack of trust down the road.
Learning how to deal with conflict in a healthy and respectful manner will build trust and respect in your relationship.
Remember that you may also have a different way of processing your emotions than your partner. You may want to talk about it right away, and they may need a few to cool off first.
Both are fine.
The key is to make sure to discuss how you are both going to solve arguments BEFORE they happen. If you can figure out how to fight fair and respectfully, well, that’s the real secret to a happy relationship.
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Learn how to utilize each others love languages
Learning your partner’s love language and actively going out of your way to do small things for them that correlate to their love language can go a loooong way!
Understanding each other’s love languages will help you take care of each other’s needs. It will help you both show up for one other throughout the day in a meaningful way. And, it will also help you settle potential arguments.
For example, if your partner’s love language is physical touch, but yours is acts of service, you might be surprised why they aren’t super excited about the fact that you did some extra chores around the house that day. Knowing each other’s love languages will help you better understand what you each find valuable in your relationship. This is the secret to maintaining a happy and healthy relationship.
Here’s a link to the official love language test. Ps: it’s free and takes like 10 minutes to do!
Most importantly know your boundaries and when to put yourself first
The most important thing you can do for yourself but also to maintain a happy relationship is to clearly define your boundaries and know your limits.
When you hold you significant other accountable and have clear definitions for what is and is not okay, you are going to be much more likely to find a healthy long term relationship. Communicate clearly with what your expectations are and talk though them.
Ladies, always remember that actions speak louder than words. Trust your gut feeling when it comes to how you feel. And don’t be afraid to put yourself first when necessary. <3
